There is a great deal of power in saying no. This also means the ability to say no requires the same conviction and strength to do it. We are coming out of a times in our lives where interestingly a lot of no was said to us, and we simply had to accept it over-night. When one is denied access to some very basic rights; like freedom of movement, eating out, playing sport or going for a simple haircut, this can hone into our emotions very deeply, making us experience a wide range of feelings from anger to hopelessness to…


A large group of people in my head is now called “No thanks”. Does anyone else feel this way? I am inherently a crowd’s person; I love being surrounded by herds of humans (can we even say that anymore and sound politically, correct?). Yet the idea of having a social meet of anything more than 6–8 people is making me feel anxious these days. I am having absurd thoughts about small talk and making polite conversation and the idea of it all displeases me. What I am essentially wondering is if this last year of living in a very different…


I lie on my bed and look up at the ceiling, mostly because I am consciously taking time out to sit with my discomfort. How is this best done? I have no fucking idea because it’s still all new to me. I don’t know for how long I have been doing this, it seems like forever. To be exact, it will be a year in April that my dad passed away. I have understood clearly one thing. The best way to grieve is to feel it exactly the way it happens each time it happens. In the early days I…


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It’s been some days I have been perplexed about this subject. As a woman of Indian origin, born and brought up in the western culture, I also have stories of racism against me. I say I do too, because frankly this is how deeply ingrained the problem has become. Growing up in a public boarding school in the UK as an ethnic minority, you pretty much have a story or two to tell. They are mostly harmless name calling ones and no physical harm done, but my question is: Does this name calling only come to us from outside or…


It’s coming up to two months since I lost my father. My life has not changed dramatically in any physical sense, but I have certainly felt a monumental shift in my emotional state. There is such a vast amount of literature and resources available on this topic, it’s easy to get intertwined in finding meaning for how you feel. There is a very universal feeling in grief, yet at the same time it’s so very personal. I learned this on day one, when a good friend of mine called me a few hours after my dad had passed. He told…


We live in two minds -fear and joy. Praise is fleeting but brickbats we always recall. For evolutionary reasons, humans retain unpleasant experiences more in their memory than pleasant ones. This is because, negative emotions generally involve more thinking, and the information is processed more thoroughly than positive ones. Thus, we tend to ruminate more about unpleasant events — and use stronger words to describe them — than happy ones. In order to shift our focus more towards joy, one needs to practice this emotion and convert it into a permanent attitude

What is the purpose of an emotion?

Emotions are energy in movement, and, this energy…


Snapshot Runners High

This is why I run. You will never experience the flamboyance feeling of it unless you go far and beyond your comfort zone. It’s like swimming through dark, murky, muddy waters and feeling toxically breathless. This is why I run. You want to cut the limbs off your body and crawl into a hole of nothingness. Somewhere along that long road of leg fits, you will get an illumination of awesomeness, it will last a whole 47 seconds and you could possibly hear a combination of drums and base or guitar strings or even a sexy saxophone…


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When I was younger, specifically in my years of education at boarding school, the only place we really could embody a complete sense of privacy and secure space, to think and do as we pleased, was our bedroom. This was clearly a logistical move placed on part of the school’s management, as the common room or other public spaces were for social interaction. …


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Most of us have established daily routines, and these become a subconscious part of our being. They may include tasks like beginning your day with 100 pushups, having lemon tea and even dedicating some time to your faith before heading into work. Without a doubt these are fantastic habits and contribute greatly to our wellness and success. A routine provides flow and develops consistency, along with structure. It also eliminates uncertainty and chaos in our minds, to prevent fickle decisions. Nevertheless, a lot of these habits come from accidental circumstances that you have chosen to make your own over time…


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We may have entered this new glossy decade that reads so pretty; 2020! Yet, you may be feeling far from a 20/20 in your head. Getting back into a momentum after the holidays is never easy. Bringing back your speed on things is like losing your breath after a sprint race. It takes time and, one needs to go slow on this process. Our productivity is not really jeopardized by these slow-paced returns, as much as the tiny particulars that gnaw away before our eyes. We could believe that it’s the bigger overwhelming goals that still us out of motivation…

Goldie Uttamchandani

Chief mum to a teenager and a tween. Life & Youth Coach, Author of Thoughts Translated & Metamorphosis. Surfing along, just like you :)

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